Pledge to Speak Up

Most men are not abusive. But far too often, they are silent about the abuse committed by other men. Their silence is as much a part of the problem as the abuse. A Call to Men in partnership with Joyful heart invite men to commit to speak up and speak out. Pledge to break the silence about violence and abuse with these six actions:

REFLECT
Think critically about the messages you have received about manhood, women, and girls. Challenge and deconstruct the way you have been socialized to view women as objects, property, or having less value than men. Invite other men to do the same.

MODEL
Live by the principles of healthy, respectful manhood that values women, girls, and those of us who do not conform to a gender binary. Embrace and express a full range of emotion and don’t conform to the pressure to always be in control. Be an example of healthy and respectful relationships for the young people in your life.

VALUE
Listen to women and validate their experiences. Don’t use language that denigrates women and girls. Help the young men and boys in your life to develop an interest in the experience of women and girls outside of sexual conquest.

SUPPORT
When a survivor shares their story with you, listen without judgment. Let them know you believe them, it is not their fault, and they are not alone.

SPEAK
Men’s silence is as much a part of the problem as the abuse itself. Use your influence and platform to speak out about these issues. Hold your leaders, institutions, and systems accountable. Let your voice be heard that you support survivors and take these issues seriously.

GIVE
Despite the prevalence and impact of this violence, organizations working to address the problem are severely underfunded. If you can, give to an organization working to support survivors, and prevent violence and abuse. Volunteer at a local shelter or rape crisis center, or donate supplies on their wish list.

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